Thank you all, so sorry I haven't replied to say that until now - it has been a busy week! All your answers were really helpful. For now we have backed off completely which seems to be helping a bit - he's really not eating enough but at least he's not refusing to eat things we know he likes. FM I am convinced that there are sensory needs. I also think a lot of his behaviours are about controlling the world around him. I think the need for anyone to do that is exacerbated by his minimal language. He has lots and lots and lots of 'traits' but parents are not in a place to hear them or put two and two together from our descriptions of his behaviour. I would love for all of you to be part of a solution circle for me - he is such an interesting (yet challenging) little one!
As for Friday - very glad it's here although a little worried at the moment - I sent a child home with a high temp this afternoon and am anxiously awaiting news - mainly because I am due to have the rest of my class back on Monday and 2 in particular are very anxious and I have been reassuring them that all is the same as it was before.
The weekend will be the TDL, knitting, crochet, reading and possibly baking something - although I don't know what - I got on the scales and regretted it!