Rea Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Last night I found myself unable to say NO and so this morning I'm CHAIR. Funny isnt it? My relationship with playgroup started 16 years ago as a mom getting some much needed relief from a toddler after having another baby. I then became staff when my youngest was 3, because the playleader kept asking me to, I thought, 'well, why not? I get the school holidays off'. I left 8 years later but went onto the committee as a sleeping member just to make up the numbers more than anything else and now I've slowly (but inexorably it seems) progressed to Chair. This morning I keep shaking my head at myself. Just cant seem to say NO.
Guest Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 (edited) Good on you...if their wasn't people like you around the world would fall apart......don't feel bad...feel good...you are a YES person... Edited June 16, 2009 by Guest
sunnyday Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Oh Rea - I really identify with you - I can't say no either! I think I may some undiagnosed condition that makes me say....."oh I could do that" - this happens even when I have planned in my own mind ......right DO NOT volunteer for anything! I'm sure you will be a fantastic Chair - they are lucky to have such an experienced person for the role - good luck! Sunnyday
Beau Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 :( There is a name for someone like you Rea. Saint, of course.
Rea Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 saint - model of excellence or perfection of a kind; one having no equal. Oh yeah!!!!?
Guest Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I totaly agree with sunnyday, they are lucky to have you. I too find it difficult to say NO, I'm working on trying to say Yes but...........however I haven't mastered this skill yet. Peggy p.s. At least you now have a dedicated forum section for a lot of your future posts.
Rea Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 Should be called "Rea's forum", 'cos I'll be back!
Guest Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Welcome Rea and congratulations if that's the right word. I did similar to you, attended a short meeting and somehow ended up as chair. But I'm really enjoying it and what's most satisfying is that we did our leader's appraisal today and she felt really supported since the new committee members came in.
beth1 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Good on you Rea! Your setting is really lucky to have you. Beth
dublinbay Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Yeah! Good for you Rea..............bet you'll be fantastic!
HappyMaz Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 So that's what I suffer from: Rea's disease... that weird thing that happens when my brain is saying "no Marion, you have no spare time to do that with everything else you have on" whilst my mouth is simultaneously saying "yes of course I'd love to...". Congratulations on your new appointment: never has a chair been more qualified to do the job. You'll be fab! Maz
Upsy Daisy Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I was going to suggest that someone should write a training course for us all to teach us how to say no. Then I realise that it might mean the end of the Early Years sector altogether so perhaps it wouldn't be a good idea after all. We need more yes people like you, Rea, not fewer!
Alison Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 well I want to echo the others in saying that the group is lucky to have you and isn't it wonderful for the group to have a chair who actually understands the nitty gritty of the group so oftern the parents and other people on the commitee have no idea what running a group really entails well Rea, best of luck with your new role too many people say no to everything and it would make the world a dull place if we only said no
Shiny Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Well done Rea, we all need someone like you!! Don't suppose anyone out there fancies being my Chair do they??!!
Guest MaryEMac Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Well done Rea, you'll be great. My problem at meetings is when someone asks for a volunteer and no-one answers, I just have to fill the silence. I can't help myself, then when I get home I wish that I had kept my mouth firmly closed. Mary
Upsy Daisy Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 My problem at meetings is when someone asks for a volunteer and no-one answers, I just have to fill the silence. That's a technique the police use when interviewing people! (not that I'm speaking from experience I hasten to add!) They use it to get people to give more information but I have to say I have used it as chair of a PTA and it is very effective.
Guest Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Well Rea, at least we know there's one setting out there with a Chair that knows what they're talking about ! Nona
hali Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Well Rea, at least we know there's one setting out there with a Chair that knows what they're talking about ! Nona here here Nina - they are very lucky to have you Rea
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