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Upsy Daisy last won the day on August 19 2017

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    SEN support and helping parents ensure that their children's additional needs are met the best that they can be in educational settings.

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  1. I would see the escalation in his sensory differences and his concerns about germs as a natural response to an increase in his anxiety. It is well recognised that sensory sensitivities increase with anxiety and many parents of children with ASD back this view. Bearing that in mind, I would be cautious about offering a reward to modify the behaviour that's causing you a problem and, instead, try to find ways to reduce his anxiety so that he naturally becomes more tolerant of sensory stimuli. This will support his well-being and ability to engage in his learning, while also reducing a behaviour that adults find problematic. Bearing in mind the strong links between autism and SPD, do you use strategies like preparation for and minimising change, breaks from social interaction, a place to withdraw to, etc? You might also want to try a weighted lap or shoulder pad for him to see if it gives him the sensory input he is seeking from changing and warming his clothes.
  2. Parents with disabilities.

    louby loo, I wonder if a referral to social care for support might help your family?
  3. Parents with disabilities.

    Well I've had some responses, most of which suggest that this is a reasonable adjustment the school should make. One of those expressing this view is a well respected SEND solicitor. As the staff would be insured to take responsibility for the same children on trips out, I can't see why there would be an issue with putting them in the car but this could easily be checked with the insurers. When someone is in receipt of disability benefits, like Personal Independence Payment and Carer's Allowance, it is very common for people to suggest that anything extra they need should be paid for from this pot. These benefits are paid in acknowledgement that life with a disability entails multiple additional expenses. They are expenses related to the care and mobility of the person with the disability and they are rarely covered by that amount received in PIP and CA. I can't imagine how hard it must be to have such limited mobility but still be caring for two young children. There must be huge challenges around every corner and I imagine a fair bit of guilt about not being able to do everything that able-bodied parents do. I think I'd find it very difficult to understand why someone could watch my three year old run to and from my car but couldn't walk the length of the car park with them, keeping them that little bit safer.
  4. Parents with disabilities.

    *Not being experts we did wonder if they qualified for carers allowance and whether this could be used to pay for a childminder.* Somebody has to be caring for the parent for 35+ hours a week and earning very little or nothing to receive carers allowance and then it would be paid to them, not the parent.
  5. Parents with disabilities.

    The parent won't get Disability Living Allowance and PIP, if they are getting it, is about the adult's care and/or mobility needs, not support with parenting. This is a hard one and I would like to ask about it in a much more general way so the family couldn't be recognised, on a forum for parents of children with additional needs. Would that be OK with you?
  6. management software, has anyone experienced Baby Days?

    There was a conversation on a parenting website with the guy who was selling this software as. They popped up quite a lot pretending to be users who were recommending it as a way of promoting it, presumably because it's cheaper than advertising. There were some questions asked about the security of how the information was stored which he wasn't able to answer satisfactorily. He disappeared eventually without it being resolved so I think I'd be quite wary. There was also something about the aggression in his responses that made me very uncomfortable and, although it was some time ago, it made a lasting impression.
  7. Me too but be very careful to make sure she knows that this is about finding out about what they have learned about him and what the outcomes were for the different strategies they used. As parents, it is very easy to worry and feel defensive when professionals talk to each other, especially if you don't have a good relationship with one of them. Children's difficulties are blamed on parenting far too quickly and far too often and it can make parents feel vulnerable. I hope it all goes well for you.
  8. I love the replies you've had so far. I would suggest that you ask the mother what support she feels he needs and go into depth about why she feels he needs it, what else has been tried, why she thinks the other setting wouldn't support him that way, etc. Have this conversation away from the child if possible so she can concentrate and speak more freely. Arrange to meet her again shortly after he has started to review everything and tweak anything that needs it. Can you get any information from the previous setting about what they implemented for him and how it was evaluated? It could stop you repeating any mistakes they made.
  9. What's your take on this?

    It's the same provider. Same staff too.
  10. What's your take on this?

    Thank you for your replies. I'm glad I'm not alone in thinking this is rather off. Would anyone expect to account to Ofsted in terms of recording progress, planning next steps, etc? I know Stargrower has mentioned still doing it but would Ofsted expect that?
  11. Our village preschool is run by the nursery and, during school holidays, becomes holiday club for primary aged children too. One mother has queried the suitability of the activities for her 3 year old son as they are pretty much all aimed at keeping the older children entertained. Their response was to tell her that the preschool isn't running through the holidays so her son is accessing care, not education at those times and they don't have any responsibility to offer age appropriate activities or interact with him on those days. Their role is simply supervision. I'd be interested to hear people's thoughts on this. To my knowledge, this approach is not taken with the younger children who are cared for on another site on full time contracts rather than term-time only.
  12. Before considering what support should be in place, you need to consider the barriers to learning you are trying to overcome. What is preventing this child from making progress? There is no point in implementing support without fully understanding the need it is supposed to be meeting. Once you have agreed what the barriers to the child's learning are, you can then evaluate the support that has been in place and its effectiveness in enabling the child to overcome those barriers. You can then decide what should continue and what needs to change. When planning changes to support, listen carefully to the parents. They have a wealth of information about their child on tap for you. There may be strategies you would like to use that have been tried before and failed. Work out with them why they may have failed in the past and whether it would be useful to try them again, tweak them to make them more likely to work or just not bother with them because they are unlikely to work or likely to be counter-productive. Make sure you use the parents' names instead of calling them Mum and Dad and address them as equal partners in the process of supporting their child, not a passive audience. Tell them it is your first meeting and ask for their feedback Good luck x
  13. My older daughter has an in-line switch like these https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sonline-Black-Plastic-Button-Switches/dp/B00X9HOT62/ref=sr_1_11?ie=UTF8&qid=1500844156&sr=8-11&keywords=inline+switch She has dismantled it to remove the bit that makes it noisy so she can use it in lectures but I don't think that would be necessary for you. Gemstones on elastic to make bracelets are good. You can make your own for a good price by buying jewellery-making beads from Hobbycraft. Bath plug chains and other small chains from B&Q The wax that you can model with the heat from your hands that comes from Baker Ross is really good but you have to make sure it doesn't go in pockets. Gloop tied in an uninflated balloon. Tangle https://www.amazon.co.uk/Tangle-Jr-Classic-PURPLE/dp/B00KYMCAUM/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1500844684&sr=8-2&keywords=tangle Jelly beads in deflated balloons Wooden/plastic beads threaded onto metal keyrings - hard to get on but robust once they are on there. Small toy carabiners or even big ones if you can get hold of any. Hexaflexgons
  14. safeguarding question

    I wouldn't rely on someone else, personally. I would report it to the MASH team but let them know about the conversation with the head teacher. I think you would be open to criticism if the head teacher doesn't report it and the child comes to harm. If you've done it yourself you can be sure that they have all the information available to you.
  15. temperature of nursery

    Am I right that the minimum temperature applies to the adults employed in the setting and there are no temperature guidelines for children?