Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 My son's just phond me to tell of the very bad news that a lad I used to look after at preschool (many years ago) has been stabbed to death. He was only 26. He had a bad start in life, parents split up and he was looked after by his dad who struggled with alcoholism. I remember supporting the dad, this lad and his sister when they came to me group. He was a friend of my sons when they were younger but when he chose the wrong path to follow my son didn't see so much of him. He got into trouble with the law in his late teens. I saw him a couple of years ago, a changed man it seemed, very proud to be settled down and becoming a father himself. It seems a 19 yr old has been arrested but early days yet as to whether he is the murderer. I just feel so very gutted, very sad for the family and quite worried that this has happened so close to home. What a waste of 2 lives. The victim and the perpetrator. Thanks for listening. Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 My son's just phond me to tell of the very bad news that a lad I used to look after at preschool (many years ago) has been stabbed to death. He was only 26. He had a bad start in life, parents split up and he was looked after by his dad who struggled with alcoholism. I remember supporting the dad, this lad and his sister when they came to me group. He was a friend of my sons when they were younger but when he chose the wrong path to follow my son didn't see so much of him. He got into trouble with the law in his late teens. I saw him a couple of years ago, a changed man it seemed, very proud to be settled down and becoming a father himself. It seems a 19 yr old has been arrested but early days yet as to whether he is the murderer. I just feel so very gutted, very sad for the family and quite worried that this has happened so close to home. What a waste of 2 lives. The victim and the perpetrator. Thanks for listening. Peggy how sad when someone turns their life around then this happens what is our world coming to , my thoughts are with this mans family friends and you x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 that is terrible news and my thougts are also with you and how you must be feeling take solice in the thought that you did what you could and hopefully made a difference to their lives while in your care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gezabel Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 oh Peggy how terribly, terribly sad for all concerned. Words seem so inadequate at times like this but sending you hugs (lots) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 As the others have said, how sad and what a waste. Thinking of the families involved and you too Peggy. Remember you made a positive difference in their lives..... xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lorna Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 So sorry to hear this. Thinking of the families and the lives it has touched. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 How terrible and so upsetting for you and your son. My thoughts are with his family and of course for you and your son too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JacquieL Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 What very sad news Peggy. Something like this affects so many people in different ways. What sort of society are we were something like this can happen and there is no respect for the precious gift of life. I think when we touch the lives of parents and their families we have at least been able to make a difference at that time, which hopefully supports the development of the child's future self. You will have made a positive difference Peggy. Lots of hugs to you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hali Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 oww Peggy how sad - lots of hugs and kisses coming your way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shiny Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 Sorry to hear such terrible news Peggy send ing virtual hugs though!! ((((((((())))))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 Oh Peggy what awful news, and as said, such a waste, jackie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyMaz Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 As you say Peggy, its a bad world indeed where horrible things happen for no apparent reason. We read about these things happening all the time, but usually somewhere else and to someone else - we never think it will happen closer to home and to people we know. I can't imagine what either parent is going through just now: both must be grieving but for different reasons - as you say a waste of two lives, and the effects of this murder ripples around and touches many other lives. Take care Peggy - as JacquieL wisely said you made a difference in this young man's life at the time he and his family needed you most. I'll bet your kids have more than their fair share of hugs today. Mx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beau Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 What a sad waste of life. I can't really add anything to what has already been said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 Thank you all for your replies, I have no-one else around who can understand that a child I looked after more than 20 yrs ago can evoke the emotions I'm feeling now. You will all understand how precious the children we care for are to us.(even when they grow up into adulthood) Jacqui your words are so true "there is no respect for the precious gift of life." it seems so more and more. We need to get back 'civil' attutudes and behaviours to truly call ourselves a civilised world. Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue R Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 Nothing new, just sadness and - yes, tears, although I don't really know any of you Sue xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmajess Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 That's just so awful, I don't know what to say. Just sending you love and thoughts to his family, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marion Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 What a terrible thing to happen ... I'm so sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sienna Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 So sorry to hear that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 so sorry to hear your news peggy, my sentiments are the same as everyone elses , its such a waste of a young life but at least it was a life touched by you that made a difference, my thoughts are with you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 Sorry to hear that news, Peggy. Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 Sad for all concerned and a sad reflection on the world we live in. Nona Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rea Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 So sorry Peggy to hear that. We do keep hold of the children we've cared for dont we? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunnyday Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 Peggy - this so very sad. Take care Sunnyday Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dublinbay Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 Very sorry to hear your sad news Peggy. Lots of big hugs to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 Thank you for your thoughts, hugs and kind words. As I fell asleep last night I was still thinking about him, I remembered I have a photo (black & white) from my preschool days 23 yrs ago, it includes myself, my son, this lad (both aged 3 yrs) and a few other children all holding hands enjoying a circle song session. I've decided to attend the funeral and give this photo to the lads father. I must admit I couldn't have known that this news would hit me quite so hard, maybe it is my age and the experience I had with my own health in December. This experience has made me think deeply, that I will be even more appreciative of life, that I shall always treasure the happy memories of all the preschool children I've cared for over the years, and to live life telling all the special people to me how much I love them. I will see my son today to give him an extra big hug. Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wellerkaren Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 My thought are with you and your family during this sad, sad time. x x x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hali Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 'I've decided to attend the funeral and give this photo to the lads father.' ..thats a lovely idea Peggy xxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 oooo Peggy what horribly sad news. Thinking of you at such a sad time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 'I've decided to attend the funeral and give this photo to the lads father.' ..thats a lovely idea Peggy xxxxx Thanks Hali, guess what..... when I spoke to my son today he said "Mum, can you find that picture of me and Lxxx when we were at preschool, you know the black and white one, I think it would be nice to give it to Lxxx's dad" , I was surprised he had remembered it and pleasantly surprised that my son Ellis had had the same thoughts as me, like mother, like son. Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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