Behaviour

[rachelllps]

How do you deal with a child who constantly pushes?

 

They sometime push while looking the other way, will push a child out of the way, or run up to a child and literally push them over or into something.

 

The behaviour was a lot worse last term and negligible in September but now seems to be escalating again.

 

Thanks

 

Rachel

[Cait]

We've got one of those just started last week too! Not that that really helps you - so I'll be watching this thread for some fresh ideas!

[Guest]

I did SENCO training recently, and we lokoed at ABC observations - you chart the Antecedent (what happened first), the Behaviour (the pushing) and the Consequence. Sometimes this can highlight a trigger, or an unintentional reward - do they get taken for a quiet chat and get 1-to-1 attention? etc.

[Cait]

We have the ABC forms and have started using that this week - no pattern yet!

[rachelllps]

We use ABC, there is no pattern to the behaviour, the child can literally just push someone who is in the way with their back to the pusher.

 

The consequence is to be moved away from the incident the child who was pushed is given a lot of attention, the pusher is told 'we don't push it hurts' and that is it. Any 1-1 attention doesn't seems to do it for this child, as soon as they are moved away they try to run away, crawl away or will say 'i want to play' and often hit out at the adult or anyone else who is too close.

 

The child also throws things and sometimes is taken to sit and calm down in the book corner till an adult counts to 5 (advised by area SENCo). The child spends all their time struggling to get away or hits or kicks.

 

We know the child is very angry/sad at the moment (this week) as Dad is working away and leaving very early in the morning sometimes not coming back at night but how can we help the child cope with this change which is going to be more frequent than it has been?

 

Rachel

[finleysmaid]

try using large sand timers for the time out time -the child can hold onto this and often they are fascinated by the movement of the sand which helps to calm them down. How do mum and dad handle it at home? do they count / use certain words/do time out etc if not then you need to create a strategy that will work for both of you in both settings to reinforce the message...goodluck we have one of these too at the moment....we have also told the offended party to say NO loudly ( warns us there is a problem too) and in our case tends to stop the offender in his tracks ....only works if thay are facing him though!!

[Guest]

Very interested with some of the stratedgies that others are using. We too use a time out after having 2 warnings (p0lus explainations) if a child does again then they are aked to sit somewhere quietly to think about what they have done. Now according to the most recent PSLA policy (which we have yet to change to) we are not allowed to single out a child or use the time out method.

 

Just wondered if those that use it have this in their policy or are you still using an older behaviour management policy from PSLA?

 

Thanks

[Cait]

We reworded it - it's your own practice you are making a policy for. We DO use some time out. I think it's important that other children see the consequences of possible actions too. It's a learning experience for them all at this age

[Guest]

Thanks Cait. That is what I have said to supervisor that we can re-word them but she was unsure. Nie to know someone else has.

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[Cait]

Yes, you download them and personalise them to yourself