Parent said No to Tapestry

[MegaMum]

I have a new child that started a couple of weeks ago. Grandma takes care of her while parents work. I have never met the parents. All paperwork was sent out and only the contact details/ registration form returned. I chased up the other paperwork... Which apparently was 'lost'. I gave Grandma all new forms and she returned them yesterday. The tapestry document included an explaination that all children have an on line journal as this is how we do it etc and gave lots of information regarding security, only they have the password etc. the second sheet is the permission form to add photo's, include theirs in other children's etc etc.

 

Once they sign it, underneath this, I have a clause saying they can withdraw their consent in writting at any time. The parent had ticked one of the boxes and then drew diagonal lines across the whole form and said they withdrew their consent. I'm going to e-mail the parent to see what happened, but if they refuse to have an online journal, do I have to honour that?

 

Keyworker went into a complete.... I'm not doing paper journals and tapestry, it's too much work and we don't do it that way anymore. I think we say, this is how we do it, but if you don't want any photographs of the child in the journal fair enough, but if they aren't going to access it that's a problem. I know it's working in partnership with parents, but this is how we record learning now and I feel if parents don't like it, there's another pre-school up the road that don't do tapestry. I do not want to start printing as it's a heftycost. Sorry if I sound harsh, but we bend over SO much for parents and I don't want to be dictated to.

 

What would you do?

[thumperrabbit]

Mmmmm don't know but I've often wondered, one of our local school nurseries doesn't give parents the choice they just put the children on to it kind of 'this is the system tough'

Will be watching to see what others say, with interest.

[Carol]

Hi MegaMum

 

Could you offer the parent Tapestry as a paper version instead of the online version?

[MegaMum]

We could, but part of the reason we chose tapestry was to get away from the ink/paper costs incurred. One of my children last year had 135 pages in his journal and that was only a year and a halves worth. Some of our children are with us nearly 3 years.

[Littlesparklesnursery]

We don't give parents a choice tapestry is a must - can't imagine life without it! If they wish we don't add pics then we honour that

[MegaMum]

I have decided no choice. Reread our policy on it today (I wrote it but wanted to be 100% sure) and it clearly states this is what we do. I have deleted all the child's photo's from the journal..... Which looks awful! Parents don't know what they are missing.... Especially as they don't ever come to Pre-school so they could have seen how happy she is and what she does.

 

My only concern is, if the parents aren't interested in accessing it, which clearly they don't want to as they drew the line through their e-mail address, is how we explain parent partnership to Ofsted?

Edited October 6, 2015 by MegaMum

[Rafa]

I have decided no choice. Reread our policy on it today (I wrote it but wanted to be 100% sure) and it clearly states this is what we do. I have deleted all the child's photo's from the journal..... Which looks awful! Parents don't know what they are missing.... Especially as they don't ever come to Pre-school so they could have seen how happy she is and what she does.

My only concern is, if the parents aren't interested in accessing it, which clearly they don't want to as they drew the line through their e-mail address, is how we explain parent partnership to Ofsted?

Re Ofsted - chances are this particular childs name wont crop up but if it does- you are trying to work in partnership - you do so with every other family - they have refused to accept Tapestry. Complete it as your doing, if they dont access it you cant make them - just as if you send home a paper LJ, whose to say they read it? Perhaps you could do a short termy report on Tapestry, print that off and send it home? Shows your still keeping Parents onboard. Sounds like Parents are only interested in using your service as childcare - gives Granny a break - what else can you do?

[MegaMum]

Granny is paying to have a break! It says it all, when I handed out the 'all about me form' for the second time, she said, " I probably know the answers better than them".

[thumperrabbit]

Granny is paying to have a break! It says it all, when I handed out the 'all about me form' for the second time, she said, " I probably know the answers better than them".

We have a lot a families like this grandparents & childminders but mum isn't at work its their time to go to the gym, shopping hairdressers etc

[currycraver]

Would anyone be prepared to share their paperwork re Tapestry. I am new to it and am not sure quite where to start.

Thank you in advance

[FSFRebecca]

There are lots of really useful resources regarding Tapestry in the resource library - have a look, you might find just what you need!

[kaz6565]

We had a parent last year who didn't want their child on tapestry so KP kept a paper learning journey for that child as that was their choice.

[finleysmaid]

we had an interesting discussion about this topic! surely a parent does not have to buy in to tapestry but you are still able to record the learning and use the data. They are getting funding for their child based on the fact that you are teaching them eyfs,,,,if they don't want the funding then they could pay!!!......just a point of view