Positive Behaviour Management
Posted 26 February 2007 - 05:00 PM
We try to say things like 'always walk' rather than 'don't run'
We emphasise the good things we see and hear and try to play down the negative
We try to greet each child individually each day and give them our attention or play alongside them at least once a day
We try and build self-esteem by using group times to 'big-up' individual children's achievements
Perhaps we could makea mnemonic on P R A I S E! What do you think.
All help greatly appreciated. No doubt we could all benefit from this too...........
language the bud;
action the fruit behind it.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Posted 26 February 2007 - 08:47 PM
There are three ways to get things done:
Do it yourself,
Pay for someone to do it for you,
Forbid your children to do it!
Posted 26 February 2007 - 09:16 PM
Posted 26 February 2007 - 10:40 PM
Posted 27 February 2007 - 05:50 AM
I have a leaflet called 'Time In' which I like - basically always trying to praise all and any wanted behaviour, not just the 'just achieved something' very good, but the every day just playing good, ignore minor unwanted behaviour (removal of attention) at same time praising another child. Never use back handed compliments 'why can't you always sit so nicely'. Children praised in front of their parents/carers is especially potent, and of course the reverse is true, so we should not criticise children in front of their parents (low self esteem).
Posted 27 February 2007 - 09:40 AM
I also sometimes ask the other children to intervene, especially at story time when one or two might be chatting, fidgeting, rolling on the cushions. I stop the story and get the children to tell me why I've stopped. They usually know why, and I ask them to tell their friends to be quiet/keep still please so we can listen. That tends to work with the older ones and the 'top dogs' dont like being told by their peers much either. :D
Posted 27 February 2007 - 06:28 PM
We gave up giving stickers straight to children at time because they had so often lost them by home-time - putting a note on a display would give instant reward at the time, followed up by the sticker shared at home-time.
Posted 03 March 2007 - 10:02 PM
We used to have a general sticker chart,but this didn't seem to work very well. I've now devised individual sticker charts for rewards when children have done some fabulous work of have shown kindness and concern for others. This is good practise for name recognition as well as saving the stickers (which the children love to count how many they have achieved!!) and not having the disappointment of losing their sticker before they have a chance to show parents/carers.
Posted 03 March 2007 - 10:20 PM
Posted 04 March 2007 - 08:52 AM
Can I ask where the heart shaped post its are from please Rose, I think thats a really wonderful idea and would like to do that here.
Good old Amazon do them. :)
The World is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning. – Ivy Baker Priest
Posted 04 March 2007 - 10:07 AM
If I do need to step in I will verbalise the feelings involved ie "Tom looks quite cross because you took the hoop from him" "Did you want to play with it?" OK, let's ask Tom. encourage child to repeat this question. " Can I have the hoop when you are finished with it"? Inevitably the answer will be "YES" ( positive).
I'd say ( role modelling) Thank you Tom, and then to snatcher, (in a positive tone) "right what do you want to play while you wait?"
I start teaching this dialogue as soon as children start, at age 2 . The children soon get the hang of it and it is lovely to observe when they remember to ask. This also encourages children to learn that 'sharing' isn't about you have something for 5 minutes then it's another persons turn, it's more about when a child has finished with something that it is then their turn. The child with the item also learns to consider that someone is waiting.
I would hate to have time restrictions when using the computor, I wouldn't want to stop using it halfway through writing a post, because my "time was up".
When we ask children to do or not do certain things, we should also ask ourselves how we would feel if the same was asked of us.
Posted 04 March 2007 - 12:22 PM
You start each day with a basket of apples give them out before their stolen.
I am not convinced i have the exact wording but the principle is about giving positive attention before children feel the need to seek attention from you!
Sorry that is probably as clear as mud!
Posted 13 July 2007 - 12:32 PM
Posted 13 July 2007 - 12:43 PM
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