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Feeling so sad today and just had to share.... I am the manager of a Nursery with a close knit team of 8 of us. Just after Christmas we found out that one of our team had terminal cancer of the lungs which had spread also to the kidneys. Last week we were told she had 6-8 weeks to live, today we have been told its a matter of days. She has a 13 year old daughter and an 18 year old son who's girlfriend is expecting a baby in August. It's just all so desperately sad and it will be the second of our staff who has been taken by this dreadful dreadful disease.

I feel so sad for her children. She had been ill for so long, we had seen her health deteriorate over the last year and a half but the cancer wasnt spotted until it was too late.

I am a great believer of fate and things happening for a reason but today all of my beliefs are seriously being challenged.....

FF

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What a sad sad time for all of you who know her and love her. Very hard to pick yourselves up and be supportive of each other, but this is what is needed. Have they managed to get a 3d or even 4d picture of the baby in the womb for her? This could be something which would allow her still to be part of this, I know it can be expensive but a quick fund raise might do it.

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That's horrible, so sad for everyone but heart wrenching for the children.

A friend of ours died 13 yrs today, I saw on Facebook comments her son who was 11 at the time, has made. Its truly a horrible thing, if you can bear to, write down any memories, conversations, anecdotes to remind yourself so in the future you can share them if you ever get the opportunity. I wish I could share more.

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That's horrible, so sad for everyone but heart wrenching for the children.

A friend of ours died 13 yrs today, I saw on Facebook comments her son who was 11 at the time, has made. Its truly a horrible thing, if you can bear to, write down any memories, conversations, anecdotes to remind yourself so in the future you can share them if you ever get the opportunity. I wish I could share more.

 

It might be nice if you could share some of these with her family too in the coming months.

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Thank you everyone.......

Today I had a text from her 13 year old daughter to tell me that her Mum had died in the early hours of the morning. No child should ever have to do that :(

We are all reeling. Nothing we can do or offer seems enough right now.

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How awful :( Maybe she chose to do it, it can seem quite surreal writing something like that, it could be her way of understanding the words and taking some kind of control. Poor child.

Take care of each other :)

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No child should ever have to do that :(

Can't imagine what she's going/gone through but could it be a sign of her reaching out to you, knowing what a close knit team her mum was part of...or taking a little control at a time when it's all been snatched cruelly away from her.

When my dad died, I took huge comfort in knowing (and wanted to know) how/what people thought of him/what he got up to - it made (and still makes) it feel like he was/is still close by in a small way.

Could you begin to make a keepsake book of the teams special memories of her, what made you/them smile, what the children/close parents liked, daft pictures no doubt you'll have to pass on to her children

Nothing ever feels enough at times like these but know that them knowing you are there for them is worth so much

Sending you more hugs, look after yourself too

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Thank you everyone.......

Today I had a text from her 13 year old daughter to tell me that her Mum had died in the early hours of the morning. No child should ever have to do that :(

We are all reeling. Nothing we can do or offer seems enough right now.

Oh the poor love.......

More hugs xxx

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More hugs coming from me, too.

From experience I know that a child in her position may want to do all the 'grown up' things because holding it all together is the very last tribute you can pay to the parent you have lost.

I hope she has lots of family and friends around her so that when the time comes they can support her to grieve properly and be the little girl who has lost her mum and is desperately sad about it.

My heart goes out to her, and to you all as you cope with all of this sadness. xx

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Oh Flo what terrible news, my condolences to her family and to your staff. It must be such a horrible thing to deal with and I can't imagine dealing with it. My mum is coming to the end of her dealings with breast cancer and it's never a nice thing to have to watch your mother dealing with it.

 

Hugs to you all.

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Of course it hurts. But try to concentrate on just WHY you are so sad.......it's because this lady added something really special to your lives. Think of those good things, be grateful she isn't suffering any more and I think the idea of a special memory book, or if you can, a patch of garden planting to remind you of her presence is a great idea .xx

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