Hi
Firstly please don't feel like a failure or a wuss! You are certainly not either in my opinion - I take my hat off to you for completing your first year whilst working 11 hr days and managing time to attend uni as well.
I can't comment on 'brick university' study as I have no experience of it. I do have experience of being an OU student since starting my FD with them back in 2003.
I purposely chose the OU as I wanted distance learning. I only work part time in a pre-school but I am flexible in the days/hours I do and I did not want to commit to one day every week at Uni. The beauty of the OU for me has been the flexibiity of when I study. You have cut off dates for each assignment to reach your tutor and you are given a study calendar and recommended to follow it. However, life in general sometimes gets in the way of study and occasionally study has to go on the back burner. With the OU that is fine and there were some times when I did nothing at all studywise for a couple of weeks. Technically I was then behind according to the study calendar but I just 'caught up' as and when I could and as long as your assignments are in on time there's no problem. I have had five different tutors for the various courses I have done and without exception they have been great. You are allowed to ask for an extension if your circumstances dictate you will be unable to get an assignment in on time. It is just a case of asking and explaining why and providing your request is reasonable they are just fine about it. Last Summer we suffered the unexpected death of a colleague and my study went totally out of the window - my tutor was superb and I just managed to get an assignment writtaen when I could and it was certainly way after the cut off date!
The OU have an online system called Firstclass which is basically a forum to chat/discuss about courses etc. They tend to have a discussion site and chat site for each course which are accessible to any student studying that course. They also have 'tutor group conferences' which are only open to your tutor group. Each tutor group has roughly 20 students and face to face tutorials are also held, the number of tutorials held depends on the course you are studying. I have made many friends over the years and without doubt the support and help from them, the conferences and the tutors has been invaluable.
My only criticism of the OU has been the fact that every course I have done has been a first presentation so I have been a bit of a guinea pig really but teething problems that arose with each new course were promptly and efficiently dealt with and the OU do listen to students. They can't please everyone all the time but who can? Overall I have no real complaints and would recommend the OU to anyone.
I graduated in June with the FD and the OU have now added a new course starting in Jan 08 that will enable me to top up the FD to a BA in Early Years. They have listened to the numerous students crying out for a BA (Hons) in EY and the wheels are in progress to introduce a further course in 2009 to lead to BA (Hons). They also do EYPS but off the top of my head I cannot remember which pathways they offer but think they offer two out of the four different ones!
The best advice I can give is to phone the OU and ask to speak to a student advisor. The best bet is to ring your regional centre. A quick google search should tell you where that is or if you don't mind letting me know where you live I can find it for you.
Good luck with the decision making, it's never easy but please pat yourself on the back for having completed your first year. I do think it would be a shame to stop now but you definitely aren't a failure. You have managed the first year and found the practicalities of attending UNi to be somewhat difficult so all you are considering is carrying on your study with a different provider - nothing wrong with that in my book
If you have any specific OU questions I am happy to help if I can - I think there are quite a few OU students who are FSF members so plenty of people around to help.